A Living Sacrifice
Rom 12:1 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.
Rom 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
We suffer because of our thoughts that are still part of this worlds thinking. When we overcome those thoughts, then our response or reactions to things will be appropriate and please God. But when we use the old man then we offend the Holy Ghost our mentor, tutor, comforter, and teacher. The Holy Ghost will chasens us, corrects us so we will not suffer the same fate or punishment from the law of disobdience.
Deu 28:15 But it shall come to pass, if thou wilt not hearken unto the voice of the LORD thy God, to observe to do all his commandments and his statutes which I command thee this day; that all these curses shall come upon thee, and overtake thee:
If we don't listen, than the thing we dread most becomes our fate. But all is not lost, even suffering becomes an opportunity to grow spiritually strong.
Rom 8:26 Likewise the Spirit also helpeth our infirmities: for we know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself maketh intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered.
Rom 8:27 And he that searcheth the hearts knoweth what is the mind of the Spirit, because he maketh intercession for the saints according to the will of God.
Rom 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
Remember Jesus Christ gave us tools and resources in both heaven and earth to assist our success in him. The Holy Ghost will teach you all things and eventually you will grow to never needing a man to teach you again.